| Can I trust again? |
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| Written by Tusnelde Kasita | |
| Friday, 06 November 2009 | |
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Trust is one of those tricky concepts for many individuals. The thought of placing confidence in someone to be honest, faithful, keep promises etc, it might be a living hell fear that became an impediment in trusting again. As you walk down the valley puzzled with life, lesson learned from disappointment(s) is that trusting another person requires a realistic perspective about people and an expectation of failure, think about it.
• Recognize the need to trust again. Some people fool themselves into believing that they do not need to have close relationships in their lives. However, human beings are social creatures, and need one another. Without trust, you cannot have a close relationship. Without a close relationship, life can seem empty. • Acknowledge areas in which you already trust. Many people, especially those who experienced deep betrayal believe that they are unable to trust anyone in any fashion. But this is simply untrue. • Understand that one person does not have to meet all of your needs. Many people search for that one person with whom they can share their entire heart. This is not necessary in order to learn to trust again. What matters is that all of your needs are met. You can accomplish this by trusting different people with different needs. • Look for people who are trustworthy. The way a person treats others is a good indicator of how she might treat you. If she tells you the intimate details of another person’s life, she is likely to betray your confidence as well. However, if she never says an unkind word about another person, she is unlikely to speak poorly of you to others, either. • Ease into a new relationship slowly. Start by sharing small confidences and see what happens. If the person breaches a small confidence, you do not want to trust him with a larger one. However, as the person shows he is trustworthy in the smaller things, you can feel more confident about trusting him with the bigger things. • Trust yourself to be okay if you are betrayed. In many cases, the fear of trusting another person is more about your own fear of not being able to handle a betrayal. If you fear you will fall apart if the other person breaks your trust, you will be less likely to trust again. However, if you are confident you are going to be okay even if the other person lets you down, it will be much easier for you to learn to trust again. |
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